If your employer (or your spouse's employer if you're on their plan) has 20 or more employees, the employer plan is PRIMARY and Medicare is SECONDARY when you're enrolled in both. You can safely defer Medicare and use the employer plan as your main coverage. No late penalty when you eventually enroll.
If your employer has FEWER than 20 employees, Medicare is PRIMARY and the employer plan is SECONDARY. In this case, you MUST enroll in Medicare at 65, even if you have employer coverage. The employer plan won't fully cover what Medicare would pay because Medicare is primary by federal law — meaning the employer plan only kicks in for the gaps Medicare leaves.
This is the single most important question to ask BEFORE turning 65: is my employer (or spouse's employer) of 20+ employees, or under 20? If under 20, defer is not an option — you'll be uninsured for the gaps if you don't enroll.
How to verify: ask HR for the employer's 'group health plan size for Medicare coordination' in writing. Document the answer. Some employers fluctuate around 20 employees year-over-year — federal rules use the prior calendar year's average.